Consent. Privacy. Exceptional spaces.

Private BDSM, considered in every detail

An international members club for distinctive rooms, informed experiences and discreet concierge support.

“Privacy creates confidence. Preparation creates freedom.”
BDSM Guide
Confidence begins with clarity

Understanding BDSM

BDSM Guide brings private rooms, structured learning and optional concierge services into one international member network. Every experience begins with informed adults who understand what they want, what they do not want and how they will communicate.

BDSM can include bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, masochism and many forms of consensual power exchange. There is no single correct scene. The right structure depends on the people involved, their experience and the limits they agree together.

The most compelling experiences are rarely the least prepared. Clear negotiation, deliberate pacing and attentive aftercare allow trust and intensity to coexist without leaving responsibility to chance.

Our role is to provide the setting, standards and access. The choices remain with the participants, and consent can be changed or withdrawn at any moment.

Preparation is part of the experience

Safety and Consent Memorandum

  • Agree the activity, limits and stop signals before the scene.
  • Treat consent as ongoing and pause whenever it changes.
  • Inspect every item before use and keep release tools within reach.
  • Plan communication, aftercare and a calm departure.
  • Choose techniques that match your actual knowledge and experience.

Luxury without discipline is only decoration. Our rooms and optional services support carefully planned experiences, but no venue or equipment replaces judgment. Keep every scene lawful, consensual and within the participants’ skills. If something does not feel right, stop.

Private learning and connection

Member Events

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Introduction to BDSM Workshop

New York
18 $3,300

Build a confident foundation in consent, negotiation, stop signals and scene planning during a structured introduction for newer members.

Advanced Rope Techniques

Tokyo
24 $3,000

Refine rope handling, tension, positioning and communication in a practical workshop intended for experienced participants.

BDSM Community Gathering

London
60 $2,700

Meet fellow members in a hosted private setting designed for thoughtful conversation, trusted introductions and respectful connection.

Impact Play Techniques

Berlin
24 $3,000

Develop control, accuracy and partner feedback across a considered range of impact techniques in a supervised studio setting.

Psychological Play

Paris
24 $3,000

Explore how anticipation, language and negotiated power can shape a scene while keeping consent and emotional safety explicit.

Sensory Deprivation Workshop

Sydney
18 $3,300

Work with light, sound and touch through controlled exercises that emphasize communication, timing and rapid release.

International reach, private standards

The Network at a Glance

11,211Private Members
163Private BDSM Suites
36Events in the Next 12 Months
Choose with confidence

Private Locations

Explore destinations by city and amenities. Exact availability and reservation details are released through the private membership process.

Private access, reviewed individually

Membership

Membership is the gateway to private availability, member events and optional concierge services. Every application is considered individually before access is issued.

Essential membership

Basic Membership

  • One private three hour suite reservation each month, subject to availability.
  • Access to private location availability, member events and optional services.

$15,000 / year

Highest level of access

Black Diamond Membership

  • Unlimited standard suite reservations, subject to availability and house rules.
  • Priority access to member events and concierge service requests.
  • Access to four invitation only suites and a dedicated BDSM concierge.
  • Eligibility to request bespoke world tour planning and full day reservations.
  • Invitations to selected masterclasses and personal equipment sourcing.

Annual membership is confirmed and paid in advance after approval.

$30,000 / year

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Curated for private sessions

Add a Prepared Set to Your Session

Choose a curated equipment case and have it inspected, sealed and placed in the room before you arrive.

Open black presentation case with three silicone vibrators, remote controls, charging accessories and folded protective textiles

Vibrator Set

$750 per booking Open black presentation case with individually sealed sterile needles, gloves, dressings, gauze and a sharps container

Needle Play Set

$950 per booking Open black case with a compact electronic control unit, insulated leads, electrode pads and attachment bands

Electrostimulation Set

$1,050 per booking Open black presentation case with examination specula, gloves, sterile drapes, lubricant and focused clinical accessories

Gynecological Set

$1,000 per booking Open black presentation case with a crop, floggers, paddles and flexible impact implements arranged in burgundy lining

Whip and Flogger Set

$1,250 per booking Open black presentation case with natural cotton and jute ropes, safety shears, cuffs, straps and brass accessories

Rope Bondage Set

$800 per booking Open black presentation case with satin blindfold, padded cuffs, sound dampening earmuffs and tactile accessories

Sensory Deprivation Set

$900 per booking Open black presentation case with low temperature massage candles, pouring bowls, protective sheets and preparation accessories

Wax Play Set

$875 per booking Small open black presentation case with a neatly coiled natural rope and gold safety shears in burgundy lining

Compact Rope Essentials

$950 per booking Small open black presentation case with a satin blackout blindfold, two padded cuffs and a connecting strap

Compact Sensory Restraint

$750 per booking Small open black presentation case containing five refined black impact implements arranged in burgundy lining

Compact Impact Selection

$1,200 per booking Small open black presentation case with four low temperature massage candles and a solid 14 carat gold application spoon

Compact Wax Ritual

$1,350 per booking Small open black presentation case with an electronic control unit, insulated attachment, cable and fastening strap

Compact Electro Essentials

$850 per booking
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Member Services

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PRIVATE FLIGHTS WITH JETS.GURU

Private flights for your BDSM Guide journey

We offer discreet private flights that connect selected rooms, events and services across cities in one seamless itinerary. Aircraft, airports and ground transfers are arranged with Jets.guru.

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Private Dining Delivery

Keep the evening private from arrival through the final course. Private Dining Delivery coordinates collection from a selected partner restaurant and timed delivery to the reserved location, so the session…

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BDSM Sex Coach

Approach unfamiliar territory with greater confidence. A BDSM sex coach gives consenting adults practical, nonparticipating guidance before and during a private reservation. The coach helps create structure…

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Private Live Stream

Share a private scene with a small circle of invited viewers, on terms set by the consenting adults in the room. Private Live Stream is available only at locations marked with the Camera amenity and can be…

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Create Your Own Dungeon at Home

A remarkable home dungeon is not a collection of equipment placed in a dark room. It is a private environment where movement, lighting, acoustics, storage, cleaning and safety work together. Our service…

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